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This is it, sometimes there are certain things we are just not told about marriages or its sacrifices. Some of us are left thinking it is what we experienced in courtship that we will experience in marriage. But in courtship most people are on their best behaviour to woo us and us to woo them. If you happen to be with someone that is real and opens up to us. superawesome...if you are not with such person, it not soo superawesome. Either way, nothing prepares you more than reality.. You begin to see traces of not soo superawesome in that (superawesome courtship) and sometimes you begin to notice the superawesome in that (not so awesome courtship). DO you get it???
Well it means, some of us we grow to be ourselves with the person we love and cohabitate with whilst some of us might actually struggle to share our space and freedom despite the lengthy and great courtship. There is no fast rule. I think its important to ANTICIPATE, FACE REALTY AND PREPARE MENTALLY all by the grace of GOD.
There is a saying I know "you truly know someone when you live with them".
Well to paint a realistic picture, that day you both say YES I DO. It means you are saying to all the anticipated and unanticipated situations that could possibly occur in marriage. Joblessness, illness, inlaws., loss etc.
You are saying YES I DO, to the annoying, funny, interesting, challenging, disgusting, uproar, sweet, romantic, irritating, jaw screeching, relaxing, comfortable, emotions running high, I will die for you any day moments that will appear in different circumstances.
You are saying YES I DO, to the real person, their ups, downs, happy, not so happy, moody, not so moody, exciting, not so exciting, gives attention, withdraws attention, wants to communicate, but doesn't want to, understands it but sometimes clueless, listens but doesn't listen, keeps making mistakes, keeps making excuses etc moments.
BASICALLY, WE are saying YES I DO, to EVERYTHING THAT COULD POSSIBLY ROCK AND ENHANCE THE MARRIAGE.
Its never easy to say YES I DO when we come face to face with reality. Its important that the person we say YES I DO to, are worth all the energy, efforts, time, stress, emotions, pain, fear and LOVE.
P.S. I am not married oh and never have been but its amazing the ministration I get from the Holy Spiriee. I like to think one day I will have a marriage where I can discuss openly the dynamics of our relationships and commitment.I think its AMAZING to discuss openly about the expectations. I love marriage and I think its amazing that God gave humans the ability, for two people to desire to make a decision to be with each other come rain and sunshine, to be good to each other, encourage each other, develop each other, fulfill purpose together etc.
Besides, I like to think with permission and agreement from Hubby, that we will use our marriage as a platform to educate and inform people about why we made the decision to say YES I DO, what we have come to learn and still learning about marriage etc.. I love learning and developing and I think as humans you can never get enough of it...
God is LOVE, and we should aim to love on ourselves and love others too.. Its can be hard sometimes but thank God for grace.. hehehe